MYSTERIOUS VS. AUTHENTIC?

If you are here reading and have been reading for a while, you might already know that the whole question of dating, whether beginning on-line or not, and finding a beautiful, loving relationship is something that forms a part of my deepest Heart desire. I’ve travelled an interesting, formative, contemplative path this past year in terms of getting really clear on what I’m looking to create.

I absolutely love my son’s statement on this. “Mom, since Mr. Putz you’ve gone from muddled to clear about this dating stuff!” Out of the mouths of babes, except that he is 16 and extremely observant. In a certain sense, I can see how my learning curve has also helped him see what is desirable and what isn’t.

Even the drattin’ chick flicks that he so vehemently protests have a positive place in his life. I’ve told him time and again, “There are important aspects about women and how they think, act and feel that you could learn about from these movies.” He grumbles and sits down to watch with me. I guess Mom drives a hard bargain! Except, then when it is over, he’ll say something to the effect of “Mom, you like more sap than the entirety of the Canadian nation produces.” At least he makes me laugh!!

As you might know, I am a member of Jonathon Aslay’s private Facebook Angel Member group. On our Angel page, we have the privacy and safety of being able to discuss issues, topics and share experiences with each other as well as always counting on Jonathon to give us the man perspective. Or to gently yet lovingly kick my butt when I need it!! I chuckle, but…it is true. It is an amazingly supportive environment as well as an eye opener at times. Find out more here http://understandmennow.com/membership/ where you can also see a short clip of Angel Cynthia talk about how great this group is!

Recently an Angel mentioned that when she actually mentioned to a guy that she liked him within the first few months of dating, he more or less bolted. She deduced that it wasn’t worth saying. My "take" on this aspect goes something like this, "Would you rather be in an open, honest, REAL, and authentic relationship allowing yourself to clearly express yourself and risking figuring out a guy isn't for you or would you rather play small to who you are to be artificially SAFE, trying to be coy and mysterious???”

As you know, life doesn’t give us any guarantees. Personally, I’d much rather take the “risk” of being open, honest and 100% clear on who I am from the very get-go than withhold my Heart and Soul essence, trading present honesty for later heartbreak. My opinion is that honesty has the potential of setting the stage for later Heartfelt intimacy.

Oh, I know, I’ve been called INTENSE for about… who knows how many years now!? I remember a friend back in 10th grade who said, “Gina, the guy who gets you is going to have his hands full!!” Oh well, it is quite clear that for me, it is better to recognize, admit and own it than to try to squeeze myself into a costume that doesn’t fit!!

More than once, on his monthly tele-seminars, Jonathon has mentioned how much he really admires my ability to just put myself “out there.” I guess there might be plenty of reasons for that such as living in an extremely small town, pop. approx. 3,000, being a wheelchair user or simply understanding ?I have little to lose. The "chariot" is my biggest hurdle, even for me. Disability dating is a whole giant territory to explore. But, I used to live every single minute thinking, “When I get better I’m going to…do this, do that. I can’t wait until I’m better to…” Then one day, I woke up and realized I am HERE NOW!! I am alive now. I am fully and completely ready, willing and capable of love now!! What a better way to live and love each and every day?

On that Optimystic note, I wish each and every one of you the most abundant, Joyful, harmonious, Loving, inspired, FUN, passionate, ethical, spiritually aware and fulfilling New Year ever complete with unbridled growth and fulfillment!!

BLESSINGS BEYOND BORDERS©,


Gina